1. When Freud gave us the theory that would go on to set the base for the most popular kink of the 21st century in the Electra Complex — by stating that daughters look for their fathers in their lovers — I contend it has less to do with fathers, and more to do with the yearning that little girls feel to imitate their mothers.
This post has made me introspect so much..I've a three year old baby girl, I can only imagine how's she is going to perceive me. The relationship my mom had with her dad is something that I harp back on. But keep the authenticity flowing
every paragraph hit me like a truck. might have read this 2-3 times and in the world of content, pausing & re-reading something is truly the benchmark of beautiful work! atleast the agony brings good words *goes into a corner shedding a tear*
1 & 8 - solution to get rid of daddy issues is by creating mommy issues? from the protector kink to the dominatrix kink? if everyone lives objectively, there won't be any culture and nothing to dissect and write about. but the opposite side, of attaching labels and creating standard societal images to be lived up to, is being stuck in this endless loop where we pick ourselves up from one pit only to fall into the next one
7 - I understand this post is meant to look at things from the female lens, but many little boys turned men also have the label of "bottomless pit of love" associated with females
Don't know why but it felt like you hit the backspace on lot of stuff.
i did, you’re right. might write more on it, one day eventually
Understandable. But I do get the inner conflict of wanting to view one's father as both the culprit and the victim
This post has made me introspect so much..I've a three year old baby girl, I can only imagine how's she is going to perceive me. The relationship my mom had with her dad is something that I harp back on. But keep the authenticity flowing
every paragraph hit me like a truck. might have read this 2-3 times and in the world of content, pausing & re-reading something is truly the benchmark of beautiful work! atleast the agony brings good words *goes into a corner shedding a tear*
I have never read something more true and beautiful than this about this relationship. It just hit home man. Absolutely love it!
thank you so much, BD. appreciate your support <3
1 & 8 - solution to get rid of daddy issues is by creating mommy issues? from the protector kink to the dominatrix kink? if everyone lives objectively, there won't be any culture and nothing to dissect and write about. but the opposite side, of attaching labels and creating standard societal images to be lived up to, is being stuck in this endless loop where we pick ourselves up from one pit only to fall into the next one
7 - I understand this post is meant to look at things from the female lens, but many little boys turned men also have the label of "bottomless pit of love" associated with females
anyway, it was a nice read.
I don’t think I have tried to provide solutions to anything here. This blog is not a social commentary, it’s a projection of personal experience.
I didn't mean solution, poor choice of words. I was commenting on the alternate theory you proposed in 1.
also, given the celebrity status, personal opinions have the power to create social norms :D
this is beautifully written, thank you for sharing such vulnerable thoughts
Thank you so much, mate <3
its such a treat to read your thots. they deserve to be put behind a paywall!
Your best stuff should never be put behind the paywall.
ay, thank you for always being so kind to me. inshallah one day soon <3